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by | July 24, 2014 · 1:33 AM

Anti-bullying 24/7: Normal Isn’t Real and Neither is Perfection

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Normal Isn’t Real and Neither is Perfection

Normality is a delusion that society has created to show us as humans that there is, in fact, something perfect. If you ask someone to describe “normal” they think of something completely different than what someone else would say. Normality is not real. Perfection is not real. Everyone is different and no matter how hard you try to change that and become something that you think everyone else is, it won’t and can’t happen.

When someone says that you’re ‘weird’ or ‘different’, they’re naïve. You can even tell them that because, did it honestly take them that long to figure out that you’re different than they are? That no one is the same as them or anyone else? You aren’t the same as your best friend or your sibling or your parents or your bully or your teachers or the stranger that you saw walking past you this morning. You aren’t them, you’re you.

I get such a wonderful feeling when I see someone, get to know them, and then I realize that they aren’t trying to be anyone else and they don’t care what people think because they’re happy being themselves. Anyone who has a problem with that isn’t in their life. Like I said before, if someone calls you ‘different’ or ‘not normal’, it’s true, but in the best way! Being different isn’t a bad thing, it’s what makes you different from the bully and it makes you the wonderfully amazing person you are today.

When it comes to looks, let me start out, everyone is beautiful. I’m not saying that just to sound nice or just because, I’m saying it because it’s true. No matter what you look like or how your body is shaped, you are gorgeous inside and out. The people who will pick on you and call you ugly or fat or say that you’ll never get a boyfriend/girlfriend are jealous and pathetic. Seriously, how petty do you have to be to actually go out into the world and bash on someone else because of the way they look?! What is so bad in your life? How insecure are you about your own self that you have to personally make sure that someone else feels even worse than you do inside? Every face, every hair style, every skin color, every shape, every height, every weight, every eye color, every flaw, every single human being is Beautiful no matter what someone else says.

I found this study about what Barbie would look like if she was a real person. It said that if Barbie were real she would be 5’9” tall, have a 39” bust, an 18” waist, 33” hips and a size 3 shoe. Her head would be the same circumference as her waist and she would have to walk on all fours due to her proportions. Barbie calls this a “full figure” and likes her weight at 110lbs. At 5’9”tall and weighing 110lbs, Barbie would have a BMI of 16.24 and fit the weight criteria for anorexia and because her neck is twice as long as the average human’s, it would be impossible for her to hold her head up. Do you still want to look like her?

 “It’s not about trying to change the world, it’s about trying to not be changed by it.” –Lights

Contributing Writer-Madison McDermott shares about Anti-Bullying. Encouragement and Inspiration at www.abettermedaybyday.com-2Madison McDermott is a 13 year old actress, living her dream in Los Angeles, CA.  A naturally creative type, she also loves writing, drawing, and has an innate love of music. She is an 8thgrader at California Pacific Charter Schools, a virtual school that allows her flexibility for her busy schedule.  In her free time, she is also a volunteer for the LA based organization, Beyond Bullies (
www.beyondbullies.org).  Madison is extremely passionate about the anti-bullying movement and is using her creativity to bring attention to bullying as well as helping those who are being bullied.


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“Normal is an illusion. What is normal to the spider is chaos to the fly” -Morticia Addams

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